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February 5, 2010 | Tagged 2009, Adventure, Cassell Seth, Comedy, Cranford Myles, Kreps Ken, Nell Chad, Perry Rollin, Ross Jack | Leave a Comment
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IMDB rating: 3.00 Plot: Two slackers find themselves in high heaven when they discover a magic bag of weed that will arouse anyone who smokes it. They decide to seduce some ladies at a party in Malibu, but first they’ll have to get past some enterprising robbers, hungry hookers, and angry ex-girlfriends. |
Actors: Perry Rollin,Cassell Seth,Cranford Myles,Kreps Ken,Nell Chad,Ross Jack,Adventure,Comedy,
Gay men advice: Is my cheating justified being that I've been hurt by 3 back-to-back long term relationships?
I’m a 55 year old gay male; I’ll be 56 in August. I’m still somewhat handsome for my age. A hot silver daddy! Okay, I’ll be serious now. First, I started dating a man named John when I was about 20 years old. He was my first love. John and I started dating in 1975 but we got broke up in 1979. John broke my heart by having sex with every dirty guy he laid eyes on while I worked a stressful job to support us.
A year after I left John, I met Claude in 1980. I admit that Claude was probably the best man I ever had; he treated me like a king and made me feel good about myself. But we started having issues because he always smoked pot but that never bothered me until he eventually graduated to coke and stuff like that. So I broke up with Claude in 1988. I admit that I probably would have stayed with Claude had I not met Arthur.
I met Arthur in 1988 and started dating him. Although I was still living in the same house as Claude, I was fed up with his absences whenever he wanted to go get high somewhere. I don’t think Claude ever cheated on me, unless the drugs count as such. After dating Arthur for 2 months, I left Claude and moved in with Arthur. Arthur and I have been together ever since but he made ONE mistake three years ago by sleeping with another man. I forgave him but I was extremely hurt. I thought for once that I found the "right" man. We’ve been together for nearly 22 years. Arthur has been very good to me ever since and I still love him. BUT, now I’m not so sure if this relationship is right anymore. Just last year, I started having a few affairs of my own with much younger men. No strings attached and I like it that way. It gives me a freedom I haven’t felt in a while. I daydream about being free and single sometimes. Is it wrong that I’m cheating? Or as a mature gay man, can you empathize with the pain I’ve gone through by getting my heart broken by THREE men I loved and dedicated a good amount of years of my life to?
ADVICE APPRECIATED.
Cheating doesn’t fix anything. You’re letting the past rule your future. The past defines who you are, but it should not define who you are. You can be better than that. If you are cheating, it’s for a reason that you need to get to the bottom of and resolve before you put someone who really loves you through such a horrible situation. You could be throwing away the person you spend the rest of your life with happily because of someone who was wrong for you before.
Beau | Feb 02, 2010
Cheating is never justified and you know that or you wouldn’t be asking here for absolution.
goodluckwithhat | Feb 02, 2010
your current partner shouldn’t be punished for past relationships with different people.
Big Balls | Feb 02, 2010
if you really loved him he would be enough and you would be cheating, see a therapist and hopefully you will figure out what you want.
Noah | Feb 02, 2010
Absolutely not. having your heart broken does not give you an excuse to go out and break other’s.
James | Feb 02, 2010
Cheating can never be justified, never.
Maybe go to a shrink or to couple’s counseling? That’s of course, if you still want to be with Arthur.
nero rat | Feb 02, 2010
Yes, you are wrong for cheating. If the two of you have an understanding, it is one thing. But, he has no idea what you are doing, and he probably already feels bad enough for the one mistake he made. Plus, there’s a time and place to stop sleeping with young guys, and if you are 55 that time has come. I know someone who does this frequently. He’s in what his bf of 4 years thinks is a committed relationship, but this guy gets around with teens and guys in their 20s…guys over 30 years younger than him. Don’t be that guy, it’s not attractive or hygenic. Stop the affairs, and tell your man what you have done.
Tight End | Feb 02, 2010
The problem is that you are lying to him, not this ridiculous notion that gay relationships have to be 100% monogamous. Give me a break…just be honest with him about your feelings and set some ground rules. I bet he gets some on the side too. You guys need to get over yourselves.
Stache Man | Feb 02, 2010
2 wrongs don’t make a right.
and though you feel "free", you must also feel guilty if you’re asking this question.
plus, 22 years is a looooong time: maybe you need to take a break and talk to Arthur and try being single for a while to see if its just a phase or a genuine feeling. to stay in a relationship while feeling trapped is going to suffer.
GiggleFunny | Feb 02, 2010
You obviously don’t know when you got it good. One mistake 3 years ago and you still want to punish him? Grow the F up, if he really broke your heart you’d have left him 3 years ago. You can’t expect anyone else to justify your actions for you, you’re a cheater who’d toss 22 years aside for nothing.
Nekhbet | Feb 02, 2010
Simply put, cheating is NEVER justified, regardless of your ‘persuasion’. Anyone who thinks that way is very immature.
AmericanPatriot | Feb 02, 2010
Two wrongs never make a right.
slippery.when.wet | Feb 03, 2010